You've been made to think that there is a training issue.
But what is really showing up is your relational blueprint.
When we step into relationship with our dogs, we don’t come empty.
We carry the imprints of every bond we’ve known, held in our breath, our posture, the quiet ways our bodies brace for impact or reach out for connection.
Old attachment patterns, inherited beliefs about love, control, and safety—they live in us, often unnoticed.
And our dogs feel it all.
They respond not just to our actions, but to our nervous systems including the tension we hold, the way we pull close or push away.
They may mirror our anxiety, retreat when we’re distant, or explore limits when we’re unclear.
Not because they’re difficult but because they’re deeply attuned to us.
In that mirroring, they offer us something profound:
an invitation to relate differently.
It starts in the body. In softening where we grip. In noticing before reacting. In choosing presence over control.
From this place, we begin to build trust, not obedience.
Boundaries become rooted in care. Connection becomes something felt.
And as we show up differently for them, we learn to show up differently for ourselves.
Just a reminder of everything you can access in ATTUNE:
🌳12 1:1 private coaching calls
We meet every fortnight to for deep, personalised coaching.These sessions are where we explore your story, your relational patterns and the dynamic between your dog and you. Think of this as nervous system work meets relational alchemy - with your dog as your co-guide.
🌳 BONUS Masterclasses
Join a small group of like-hearted monthly/once in two months for live masterclasses on attachment, boundaries, somatic safety and more.
🌳 FREE access to my new Telegram membership, The Sanctum
Join like-minded women dog guardians who are making the radical shift from control based paradigms to relational attunement & coregulation with their dogs and calling for a witnessing and celebration of this rewilding.
Note: don't forget to add it to your cart at the time of check out to get access The Sanctum membership
🌳 [Coming Soon] Private podcast with attunement journeys
These are somatic journeys to help your nervous system shift from control to attunement and expand into ease, joy, peace, curiosity and responsiveness with your dog and yourself.